Whether single or in a relationship you still celebrate this February

As Valentine’s Day approaches, we need to remember that for some it can be a difficult time.

Valentine’s focuses on romantic relationships but the idea of self-love is
completely forgotten.

The commercialisation and promotion of romance during this season creates an illusion that being alone on Valentine’s Day is miserable, abnormal and
unacceptable.

This can lead to intense insecurity and devastating feelings of loneliness which can be detrimental to mental health.

The Greek language distinguishes four different types of love: Storge (empathy
bond), Philia (friend bond), Eros (romantic love) and Agape (unconditional God love).

Although Valentine’s Day is meant to celebrate all types of love, there is a
disproportionate focus on Eros, characterised by sex and desire.

This portrayal of what love really is, is harmful to society as a whole.

Social media creates unrealistic expectations around Valentine’s Day and the
pressure to be in love can be overwhelming.

It can feel as if your entire identity is defined by your relationship status.

It is important to keep in mind that getting into a relationship because of societal pressure or fear of being alone is not healthy.

It is unlikely for such relationships to work out and they may cause emotional distress.

Luckily, Single Awareness Day is celebrated on February 15 as an antidote to
Valentine’s Day.

It is an unofficial holiday which celebrates single status and love in
all forms, recognising the love between friends, family and loving yourself.

Some good ways to celebrate Single Awareness Day might be with a spa day,
meditation, taking yourself on a date, or writing a love letter to yourself.

Palentine’s Day and Galentine’s Day are also celebrated in February, both are on February 13 and celebrate platonic friendships, usually among women.

It is important to keep in mind that we don’t need to be in a relationship to
celebrate life.

There are plenty of benefits of being single: getting to know yourself, controlling your own life, getting to know new people and more time for family.

There is no need to rush into a relationship.

Being single does not imply loneliness as it gives a chance to connect with new people.

Whether single or dating someone, everyone should feel happy with their choices and enjoy life.

For mental health support visit the Wellbeing Hub on the MyKingston pages.